“BEGINNING A CONVERSATION is an act of bravery . . . Feeling vulnerable is an act of gentleness. Bravery is an act of fearlessness. Without these two, conversation will never be initiated.” Once we learn how to string words together the world takes on a new meaning. Sakyong Mipham wrote THE LOST ART OF GOOD CONVERSATION: A Mindful Way to Connect with Others and Enrich Everyday Life to remind us how much power we have in and with our words.
Everyone knows that words have the power of life or death. But how often do we truly and intentionally exercise the power of the spoken word when we are engaged in a conversation. The author used his Hinayana Buddhism background to write about his insights into the topic. The common theme throughout the book is to rediscover the many ways you can be gentle with our conversations and interactions with one another. Let your conversations develop organically, stop trying to anticipate what the person is trying to say . . . just be still (ooh that is so hard at times).
In reading this book, I realized there was more I had forgotten about having a good conversation and more that I remembered about having a bad conversation. Mr. Mipham wrote, “The danger is that while we are more connected now to the whole world than we ever have been before, we are less connected to people in our everyday life.” If you are or feel disconnected, socially awkward, or just shy this book will remind you how less complicated it is to take that first step. At its core it is about the type of connectivity you choose to have with others. “Our identity is a web of interactions. We are so interconnected that our relationships define us.” Be brave and continue to redefine who you are!
THOUGHTS For Your SOUL:
- “Identifying strongly with our thoughts and emotions, we mistake them for a solid “me,” and then defend that apparition against the world.”
- “Conversation is a practice of nowness . . . Ultimately, nowness cannot be expressed; it must be experienced . . . and recommends these three things
- Nowness is nonnegotiable
- Nowness requires appreciation
- Being free of attachment – you need to be daring and delightful
- “Conversation becomes an art when it transports us from self-absorption to being aware of the thoughts and feelings of others.”
THE LOST ART OF CONVERSATION is an easy, thoughtful book. It will leave you feeling inspired and glad that you read it. In this crowded arena of self-help books it is refreshing to find a book that you can use immediately. The title would make you think that it is a heavy, deeply intuitive book. Quite the opposite. Although we should know the difference between good and bad conversations. At the end of the day, a conversation is just that . . . Communication between two or more people who choose to make it as simple or complex as they choose. “Remember, [good conversation is] a compliment, [as well as] a gift; to accept it with grace has the effect of pleasing the giver.” Turn off the television, put down your smart phone, take a break from your solitude, and enjoy someone’s company with a good conversation.
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