Caught Between a Dream and a Job (revisited)

Default CoverHAVE YOU EVER FELT like you are at a point in your life where you just want more out of it? You may or may not be content with your current career choice, but there’s something inside that just keeps nagging deep within your spirit.  CAUGHT BETWEEN A DREAM AND A JOB: How to Leave the 9-5 Behind and Step into the Life You’ve Always Wanted by Delatorro McNeal II may just be the inspiration you need to motivate you to get serious right now.

ARE YOU THINKING or have you thought about owning your own business, but haven’t done it yet? Are you afraid of failing? Don’t know where to start and dread having to read one more self-help book? Well, before you throw in the towel,  read this book. It might just be what you need to motivate you.  Some of the examples are:

  • Identifying your destiny and purpose, and the need for a transition.
  • Hiring yourself and landing your real dream job.
  • Tips for stepping powerfully into your dreams.

THE GOAL OF THIS BOOK is no different from any other, but it is the infectious energy  leaping from each page that sets it apart from others, making it a worthy reading option.  Do the work, look within, and have the courage to ask yourself the hard question – “How badly do I want this?” Then put all of those good ideas into action?

CHANGE IS NEVER EASY but the rewards of your leap of faith can be as vast as you want it to be. What’s your game plan? What’s your plan of action? What’s your exit strategy? All these questions and more are addressed and/or answered. Mr. McNeal invites and reminds you to be an active participant in your future.


  • “Nothing in life is guaranteed, but one thing is; if you don’t try you will fail, it’s about taking risks.”
  • “When the social archeologists of tomorrow look back on the days of yesteryear and find your footprint, what story will it tell? What social imprint will you make? What will your legacy be?” – Jason Drenner
  • “The self-employed are the wealthy folks of America. The average net worth of a family where the head of a household works for someone else is $65,000. When it comes to the self-employed, the average net worth is $352,3000.” – Dr. Steve Sjuggerud
  • There will be 10 million new millionaires in the United States alone created between 2006-2016. Prime candidates are those people who are in direct selling, technology, in home-based business, product distribution, or wellness field.” – Paul Zane Pilzer, Economist, Trend Forecaster and best-selling author of The Next Millionaires.

Delatorro McNeal shares his personal testimony, of how he systematically worked to make that transition. The advice is practical, timely and pertinent, as well as structured to walk you through the process. Each of the best practices are explained in detail, with an inspirational quote to keep you focused. He invites and encourages you to be an active participant in your future. To do that you have to be open, take notes, highlight poignant passages, WRITE your answers down and reflect. CAUGHT BETWEEN A DREAM AND A JOB is jam-packed with suggestions. . . You just have to have the courage to step out on faith. By the end of the book, you are convinced that your dreams are possible . . . If you have the courage to pursue them and it starts with the step you take today!

This review may differ slightly from the original January 8, 2014 post.

Let’s BOND over BOOKS rates CAUGHT BETWEEN A DREAM AND A JOB as MELODICALLY MEANINGFUL (151-300 pgs) . . . Just the right mixture of content and pages



Find Your Extraordinary

findyourextraordinaryA LIFE “So full of passion, positivity, will, tenacity, and gratitude that can transform your life from ordinary to extraordinary” is within your grasp. To have it, you’ve got to want it! FIND YOUR EXTRAORDINARY: Dream Bigger, Live Happier, and Achieve Success on Your Own Terms by Jessica DiLullo Herrin is the story of a woman’s ordinary to extraordinary.

INSIDE MANY OF US is the longing or desire to do more with our life before it gets too late. In the pursuit of passion, we often stumble upon our purpose. Jessica DiLullo Herrin stumbled onto her path while on a treadmill in graduate school. The idea sparked an insatiable thirst that drove her to ultimately drop out and while she doesn’t encourage it, it worked for her. That idea was Della & James, which became and was ultimately sold to The Knot (the online wedding planner website) for $90 million.

TIMING AND PREPARATION are everything. Her next business venture is Stella & Dot a direct marketing, e-commerce and social media company that sells jewelry and handbags through Trunk Shows given by independent contractors or entrepreneurs.  Stella & Dot grossed over $100 million last year

JESSICA DiLULLO HERRIN writes of her struggles, her tenacity, her perseverance, and her ‘normalness’, but she never let it minimize her dreams. Struggles are real and her’s is relatable. A $100 million company comes with its own struggles, although these “new” struggles were not the struggles of an ordinary person, we can still  learn from her story.


  • Don’t think about how your past limits your future, but instead about how your unique past has made you stronger.”
  • It’s not about who is more successful – it’s simply about whether you are happy with the trade-offs that come with your choices.”

ALONG THE WAY to her dream Jessica knew she “was going to pay some dues and work some jobs that were not altogether awesome.” What are you willing to sacrifice or give up to pay your dues? Taking a step back to move forward could be the best strategic move that gives you the additional perspective needed to propel forward.

FIND YOUR EXTRAORDINARY while inspirational on so many levels, cultivates and feeds the entrepreneurial spirit. Risk is not something to fear, risk reminds us that “Extraordinary exists only outside of your comfort zone. Fear will always be there, but if you push yourself to find it, your courage is there, too.” This is the kind of book you want to read multiple times or share with a friend.

WHEN YOU ARE BRAVE ENOUGH to “Develop the will to do things your way, without fear of failure or how your choices look to anybody except yourself” you can discover your extraordinary.

Let’s BOND over BOOKS rates FIND YOUR EXTRAORDINARY as MELODICALLY MEANINGFUL (151-300 pages) . . . Just the right mixture of content and pages.

Disclaimer: BONDing for BOOKS received this book from the Blogging for Books program in exchange for this review.

The American Dream from an Indian Heart

American Dream From Indian heartTHE FIRST DAY I watched the news in America I knew I was going to make it. Everybody complained of the difficulty of survival . . . I remember turning to my bride . . . and saying . . . These people think they have problems.” In THE AMERICAN DREAM FROM AN INDIAN HEART: Living to Learn and Learning to Live by Krish Dhanam shares his journey from the humble beginnings as a boy in India to the pinnacle of success as a corporate executive in America.

AS A MOTIVATIONAL SPEAKER each page exudes optimism, humility and common sense. He writes of attitudes – attitudes of  I’m too good to do this” or  I’m thankful for the opportunity. Mr. Dhanam makes some really good points and then at times his observations/reflections reveal subtle conservative stereotypes, such as, “What about the work ethic of an unwed mother?” These are “code” words and/or statements that can be inflammatory to the reader while unintentional by the writer.

IT IS EASY to view and make assumptions about a race of people because you view yourself as somehow “better.” The author states that “I learned a long time ago that success has no color but it does have some shades.” I beg to differ, it depends on who’s doing the coloring, who has the crayons and who decides what is acceptable.

SOME PEOPLE HOLD on to the notion that all immigrants (legal and illegal) only come totake away jobs from  Americans.” It is easier to blame than to take accountability. It is important to understand the writer’s viewpoint. He is an Indian immigrant who chose to come to America for better life, i.e. economic and/or social opportunities he felt he could not obtain in his native land. The feeling of a person who is free to choose is always more positive than those who have choices made for them.

MR. DHANAM SPEAKS of the things Americans take for granted – the choices, the opportunities, the liberties. Using examples of two Indian people who live in poor economic conditions compared to Americans. It is easier to reach the pinnacle of success when invited by the “in-group” whoever that “in-group” may be. (Yep, “in-group” is a code word). As he states, “Poverty has forced many people to abandon their independence and sometimes this is a blessing and other times a curse.”


  • “In the pursuit of fame and fortune, we chase dreams of monetary excellence with a plan of limited intelligence.”
  • “There comes a time in all our lives when we tire of what we know and trade it for what we think someone else has that is more valuable.”

PERSONAL OBSERVATIONS explain his optimistic view of life and success. He credits the love and respect from his parents, wife, son and in-laws for their unwavering support, as well as his faith; which have enabled him to achieve a successful, professional career. He acknowledges being at the right place, at the right time, with the right opportunities and it helps having Zig Ziglar as a mentor.

THIS IS ONE MAN’S LEGACY. Proof that he was here . . . that he mattered . . . that he was loved. He encourages you to record your own story and provides a template. Of course, there are obstacles and everybody comes with their unique challenges. No matter how difficult life may be, “You can have everything in life you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar

Let’s BOND over BOOKS  rates THE AMERICAN DREAM FROM AN INDIAN HEART as MELODICALLY MEANINGFUL (151-300 pgs) . . . just the right mixture of pages and content.

Disclaimer: This book was received for free from the author for an unbiased review.

The Art of Happiness At Work

The Art of Happiness at WorkKAROSHI is the Japanese word for “death by overload . . . nearly half of the American workers are dissatisfied at work, unhappy with their job.”  THE ART OF HAPPINESS AT WORK by His Holiness The Dalai Lama and Howard C. Cutler, M.D. explores what it means to be truly happy at work and finding enjoyment with your current position.

IN EXPLORING what it means to be truly happy at work the authors discussed some of the triggers, such as the psychological make-up of the individual, work overload, job satisfaction, boredom and lack of challenge, just to name a few.

FOR ALL OF THIS to make sense you have to identify which type of worker that best describes you. This is an important topic because it has the ability to impact every working person on the face of the earth. Your “Attitude toward one’s work is the most important factor” when talking about “A sense of fulfillment from one’s work.”

  1. The one who views work as just a job – focus is on the financial reward/compensation.
  2. The one who views work as a career – focus is on [workplace] advancement.
  3. The one who views work as a calling – would do it even if she/he didn’t get paid.

NOWADAYS there is no such thing as a 40-hour a week. Everybody is being asked to give more, do more. The expectation, direct or indirectly stated to bring work home, work later hours, or even on the weekend will lead you to believe that you don’t have a choice . . . that there is no “me” time and that you don’t have an “off-duty personality.”

WORKPLACE DISSATISFACTION can be traced back to the thought that many people felt that “They had a sense of autonomy, no freedom to do their work in their own way.” They discuss the effects pleasure and happiness have on happiness which goes back to the point of finding a job that you love.


  • “Satisfaction with one’s work tends to make one happier overall, and those who are happy with their life tend to be happier at work.”
  • “Contrary to what one might expect, they found that those with more important jobs are no happier in life than those with less important jobs.”
  • For many there is a kind of perverse pleasure in the self-righteous indignation one feels when one is treated unfairly. We hold on to our pain, wear it like a badge, it becomes part of us and we are reluctant to give it up.”

THERE ARE MANY key takeaways from THE ART OF HAPPINESS AT WORK that outline the list of reasons for dissatisfaction at work. Dr. Cutler probes The Dalai Lama to discuss the eastern vs. western philosophies and perception about work. Everyone has their own benchmark, that invisible line of demarcation where enough is enough. The Dalai Lama shares his thoughts about work in general, workplace attitudes, as well as why we work.

A LOT OF WHAT the Dalai Lama shared is not completely from the Buddhist way of thinking, but practical, common-sense thoughts that come from a man who is in the Buddhist world but not oblivious to the world that he lives in. Happiness at work for the Dalai Lama is in his own words, quite simply put, “The more we can reduce the gap from between who we are and what we do, the more effortless our work will become.”

Let’s BOND over BOOKS rates THE ART OF HAPPINESS AT WORK as MELODICALLY MEANINGFUL (151-300 pgs) . . .  just the right mixture of pages and content.

High Heels in Tech

High Heels in TechWomen need to change their perception first in order to shape the minds of their daughters so they can claim their natural place as World Leaders.” It seems that women are constantly fighting to have their voice heard and get a seat at the table.  HIGH HEELS IN TECH by Winsome Campbell-Green continues the conversation.

Although many women may be treated as though they are transparent nobody wants to be treated as though they are invisible. Being a “Very integral part in the launch process of Broadband 4G technology,” Ms. Campbell-Green raises many interesting questions and prompts the reader to think and reflect on how oblivious they may have been about this subject.

The discrepancies are alarming and yet subtly prevalent. Ask yourself how many females do you know personally that talk about wanting to design video games? The answer is probably little to none. This “problem” won’t be solved over night nor by itself. It starts with little girls seeing and being exposed on a regular basis to women in technology. Taking the road less traveled and demystifying the notion that girls can’t do coding or aren’t good at math.


  • “Women are reshaping the field [of technology] with some incredible revolutionary practical ideas.”
  • “Technology is a field based purely on meritocracy. Once you have what it takes, the job is yours.”
  • “Women should help each other to excel…at least one person per week.”

This short e-book just skims the tip of the iceberg regarding Women in Technology. It reads more like a journal entry or a series of blog posts where the author chose to share her frustrations with the lack of diversity in the world of technology; while pleading for us to wake up and take up the torch. Winsome Campbell-Green “write[s] from the perspective of a woman who loves technology.”  We just wish that the book was longer and had a little more meat. Afterall, the choices we make dictate the life we live.

Let’s BOND over BOOKS  rates HIGH HEELS IN TECH as EASY & ENGAGING (150 pgs or less)…straight-forward, light and to the point.

Disclaimer: BONDing over BOOKS received this book for free from the author for an unbiased review.

MARCH “Back to the Books” WINNER is…

Lessons in LivingThe WINNER of our MARCH “BACK to the BOOKS” award is LESSONS IN LIVING by Susan L. Taylor.

THERE ARE NO MEANINGLESS EXPERIENCES.”  Only with time, wisdom, patience and experience we will eventually learn THE LESSONS IN LIVING. Many of which have been captured very eloquently in the timeless book by former Essence magazine Editor-in-Chief, Susan L. Taylor.

WHATEVER YOU MAY BE GOING THROUGH right now, personally or professionally, know that you are not alone. Ms. Taylor shares her personal story to let you know that regardless to where you are now, it is important that you get moving. “Each one of us has a finite amount of time on earth, but it’s enough time to do the work that only we can do, the work we were sent here to do.”

LIFE GIVES US OPTIONS and opportunities for second chances, for victories over life’s challenges and adversities. Sometimes our pride often makes us hypersensitive to situations, sometimes making things worse by doing or saying things that cannot be easily forgotten or undone.  The misunderstandings or arguments of today open the door to the forgiveness you give not only to yourself but to others tomorrow. A hurting person just wants to be heard/acknowledged and an angry person just wants to know if another chance is a viable option to make things right.


  • Our lives are full of separations that shake us up, force us to attend to our emotional selves and to learn new ways of being in the world.”
  • When love begins with you, you no longer demand from others the love and sustenance you should give yourself.”
  • Everything is a lesson for our growth, not for our oppression.”

SUSAN L. TAYLOR WRITES about having a spiritual foundation, “God is interwoven into almost every chapter,” loving yourself, meditation and being honest with you life and your circumstances…”Every occurrence in life has its purpose.” Tom Burrell, CEO of the Burrell Communications Group stated once, “I never focus on what I have lost, but on what I have left.”

AS WITH INSPIRATIONAL BOOKS, there are questions that should make us think and push us to act, such as:

  1. “Each day isn’t a luxury, but a necessity”… Do you know the “PURPOSE OF YOUR JOURNEY?”
  2. Being thankful and gratefulness go hand-in-hand… Are you “PRACTICING THE PRESENCE?”
  3. Put a pin in it, pause and not say a word… Are you meditating “IN THE SILENCE?”
  4. Let the sun kiss your face… Are you “LIVING IN THE MOMENT?”
  5. We all have the gift of free will… How will you “CLAIM YOUR POWER TO CHOOSE?”
  6. Each one of your relationships shows you where you have more loving and growing to do… Are you “LIVING LOVE?”
  7. Restoration and balance are so important… How important is the “RENEWAL” of your spirit?
  8. Death is a natural part of life… Are you ready for the “TRANSITION” of a loved one?
  9. When you open your hands to give, you also open you hands to receive… “WHAT WOULD YOU GIVE?”

THIS TIMELESS CLASSIC RESONATES in the deepest part of our spirit. We have all been there and it is not pretty, nice or easy to get up each morning even when know it would be much easier to pull the covers over your head and stay in the bed. It speaks about the power of prayer, the realization that “Fear made retreating seem like an easier option than confronting my pain and taking responsibility for ending it.”

THERE ARE MANY, MANY LESSONS IN LIVING that are applicable to us today and serve as references for tomorrow’s challenges. Vow today to “live in the moment…Affirm what we have…So often we miss the splendor of each moment because we are focused on what we feel we’ve lost.”  This book encourages you in ways that are gentle and soothing.

OUR LIVES ARE CHARACTERIZED by transitions and transformations, by necessary losses and unexpected gifts, by an unending series of passages.” All of these things enable us to see the beauty found in a loved ones eyes, the tenderness of a forehead kiss. the security of a warm hug or the smile that signals the promise of a brighter tomorrow.

Basic CMYKLet’s BOND over BOOKS  rates  LESSONS IN LIVING as MELODICALLY MEANINGFUL (151-300 pages)…just the right mixture of content and pages.

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